Buddhist Practice: hatred 2

I wished to know what the Dalai Lama would recommend to someone in my situation, because at the time I had no idea of how difficult his own troubles in relation to China were. I did not think his enemies were as destructive or purposefully cruel as mine, only people making accidents and mistakes.

It took my learning of the Tibetan situation and then reevaluating what the Dalai Lama was saying as well as my own acceptance of karma and experience of time-out from hatred before I could begin to accept that it would be possible to separate the doer from the deed. I first learned to recognize that 'a fellow human who was not aware of the damage they were doing to their own future was doing wrong deeds'.

I could take that a new way, feeling compassion for them from my understanding of how karma works, stepping away when attacked to limit the viciousness and retaliation involved, and separating the man and the deed. This led to my not having to hate them to stay separate from them, recognize their deed as wrong and being as mistaken, and free myself from the horrid fury of hatred within me.

I learned to disapprove of their wrongful gestures, while not flooding a furious barrage of snarling fury at them for inflicting me. I learned that non reaction led to helping both them and me. I did not have a head filled with horridness and they were not in an ever continuing fierce battle but standing alone on the war field doing harm in their ignorance.

I am still learning to deal with dislike and rejection, but I can finally say that I have learned not to hate.